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015: Finding purpose after leaving a cult and the military with Daniella Young

Daniella Young is a motivational speaker, writer, combat veteran, Army wife, Mom, and the founder and CEO of Task Force Art, an intentional team building and purposeful leadership consulting firm. Her “Bullet-Proofed” seminar inspires leaders to proactively engage in building high-passion/high performance teams, strong organizational culture, and a place where diversity and personal strengths are actively cultivated. Daniella’s wisdom on navigating major life transitions comes from her own experience of several challenging transitions including escaping from a cult, leaving the military, and becoming a parent. Join us this week as we discuss:

 

  • Escaping a cult at the age of 15 and feeling “so, so different” from others
  • What makes you different? Where do I start?
  • Underneath the obsession of getting good grades and excelling to fit in is the longing for connection
  • Tough love: “Daniella, you’re not as different as you think you are.”
  • The similarities between the cult and the military
  • This is what it means to be American
  • Winning the lottery of American privilege
  • Transitioning between post-military and family life
  • The six figure job wasn’t the right calling and purpose
  • Carrying the weight for an entry level position
  • The process and the people: a transition for veterans
  • Avoiding conflict: How companies are doing it wrong
  • Figure out your meaning, your end goal and how to give back
  • Using conflict and creating your victory with vision work
  • Conflict engaged has the power to create community

Recommended Resources:

Bunker Labs

Task Force Art

Bullet Proof Yourself Blog

Daniella Young’s Contact Info:

Company: Task Force Art

Website:taskforceart.com

Email:daniella@taskforceart.com

Twitter:@daniellamyoung

 

014: Navigating the Transition to Adulthood with Cory Smith

Cory is a Virginia native and attended Virginia Commonwealth where he received his undergraduate degree in biology and his Masters in Teaching. During his time at VCU, Cory played on the soccer team and was a full-time volunteer for Young Life. After finishing college, Cory entered the Young Life intern program for two years and continued on staff for two additional years in Virginia. Cory and his wife Christine were married in 2001 and have lived in Colorado since 2002. They have two children : a beautiful children, daughter daughter, Sage and, born in 2009 and a son, Cedar., who was born 2013. Christine and Cory love being parents and will soon be celebrating 15 years of marriage. Cory enjoys fly fishing, wearing flip flops and shorts, and hanging with friends in his garage. Cory is one of the founding directors of Training Ground, an organization that provides evaluated real life experiences, mentoring, and intentional Biblical teaching in the context of work, wilderness, and worship.

In part one The Path of a calling is not a straight line Cory shares about how a challenging 2-year season of remodeling a barn with a friend led to discovering a calling and career. In this episode, part two, Cory talks about the unique challenges of transitioning into adulthood, and how risk, failure and community are essential elements to the transition. Join us as we discuss:

  • Founding and Design of Training Ground
  • Refining Energy within Perspective Spaces
  • The Value of Conflict and Tension
  • The Permission to Fail and Experiment
  • Who is Training Ground
  • Fifty Bucks and a Phone Number
  • Risk is Necessary to Shape a Life Worth Living
  • Death Bringing Life
  • The Different Challenges Through Different Generations
  • Navigating the Transition To Adulthood
  • The lesson of “Do What’s in Front of You”
  • What Doesn’t Look Safe May Be Safe
  • The Paradox of the Gospel in Finding Your Calling

Upcoming Workshops and Events:

Gap Year in Sarasota

Cory Smith’s Contact Info:

Website:

Training Ground

Email:cory@trainingground.com

Instagram:@traininggroundcolorado

Twitter:@Training_Ground

013: The path of a calling is not a straight line with Cory Smith

Cory is a Virginia native and attended Virginia Commonwealth where he received his undergraduate degree in biology and his Masters in Teaching. During his time at VCU, Cory played on the soccer team and was a full-time volunteer for Young Life. After finishing college, Cory entered the Young Life intern program for two years and continued on staff for two additional years in Virginia. Cory and his wife Christine were married in 2001 and have lived in Colorado since 2002. They have two beautiful children, daughter Sage and son, Cedar. Cory is one of the founding directors of Training Ground, an organization that provides evaluated real life experiences, mentoring, and intentional Biblical teaching in the context of work, wilderness, and worship.

In this episode, Cory shares about his early career moves and how a challenging 2-year season of remodeling a barn with a friend led to discovering a calling and career. Join us as we discuss:

 

  • The circuitous path of Cory’s calling
  • Work that “grinds” and deeply shapes character
  • Recognizing passion and finding what you’re made of while doing less than desirable work
  • Know the difference: escaping to get relief vs. choosing something desired
  • Faith and God’s gift to us to choose our way
  • Work that “pays the bills”
  • “Everything is spiritual” in the gritty work we do
  • “Staying in the pocket” – the value of tensions that shape our character over time

Upcoming Workshops:

Cory and the Training Ground team will be doing a Gap Year in Sarasota this coming fall. 

Cory Smith’s Contact Info:

  • Website:Training Ground
  • Email:cory@trainingground.com
  • Instagram:@traininggroundcolorado
  • Twitter:@Training_Ground

Head over to Cory’s website and check out Training Ground, and be sure to be on the look out for events and upcoming workshops!

 

012: Pushing Boundaries while Balancing Expectations and Reality with Craig Detweiler

Craig Detweiler’s background is in filmmaking and screenwriting, and he was recently hired on as the president of a seminary called The Seattle School of Theology and Psychology. He and his family uprooted to the Seattle area from Los Angeles, taking on a new challenge both in career and life. Craig works with graduate students who are looking to deepen and broaden their calling and leadership skills, all while trying to transition himself into a new place. He is the author of several books including, Selfies: Searching for the Image of God in a Digital Age and iGods: How Technology Shapes Our Spiritual and Social Lives .

 

In this episode, Craig shares his experiences of transition that from a young age helped shape his desire to push boundaries. Join us as we discuss:

  • Transition:it’s all material intended for our growth – even if its painful it’s all good
  • Choosing a new career path in an act of hope
  • Seattle in transition- who we are and whose we are
  • The Third Act: Life Drama
  • How the overflow of choices creates a problem
  • All the way back to Florida and the inability to vote
  • Billy Graham and a spiritual crisis, alone in a hotel room
  • Sending self confidence back to 12 year old Craig
  • Wayfinding and welcoming new adventure
  • Screenplay of hope and expectation
  • The already and the not yet
  • Grit and determination are the muscle of resilience
  • The Psalms of Life: Finding hope and love in a new community
  • Transitioning without the invisibility cloak and finding fellowship
  • The risk is worth it

 

011: Helping parents ease the transition back to school with Cher Anderton

Cher Anderton works as an elementary school counselor in Shoreline, WA, as well as licensed therapist. In her private practice, Cher works with women adolescent age and older, and primarily focuses on trauma and parent coaching. Cher is a certified Positive Discipline Parent Educator. Her biggest passion and calling is helping parents and individuals move through life in healthier, more connected ways. Cher has four kids of her own, ages 11-17.

As a parent, it’s easy to get overwhelmed by the the transition to another school year. In this episode, Cher shares what she’s learned from her own parenting journey along with some helpful thoughts to prepare parents for the Fall transition. Join us as we discuss:

 

  • Developing as a parent begins by doing your own work
  • Parenting as reactionary and “taking it personally”
  • Our kids as personal “development coaches” who show us where we need to heal and grow
  • Parenting “do-overs” that strengthen the relationship and build skills
  • The Summer time routine at home and preparing for the Fall
  • It’s never too late to add parenting tools
  • Becoming “flipped” as a parent
  • Engaging our stories and learning the tools to rewire unhelpful parenting patterns
  • Boundaried and kind as a positive discipline
  • Unboundaried busyness and “to-dos” that steals away precious time
  • An overview of positive parenting

Upcoming Workshops:

Cher will be bringing her expertise to The PIER Learning Center at Liminal Space to lead a workshop called Positive Parenting: Helpful tools to to ease the transition back to school on Tuesday, August 14. It will also be offered a second time on Thursday, 8/23. Join us! Tickets are limited.

Book:

Positive Discipline: The Classic Guide to Helping Children Develop Self-Discipline, Responsibility, Cooperation, and Problem-Solving Skills by Jane Nelsen Ed.D

Cher Anderton’s Contact Info:

  • Instagram: @cher_andertonllc
  • Facebook: @cheranderton
  • Website: cheranderton.com

Head over to her website for more info about her therapy practice and the parent education classes she’s currently offering. Cher is also developing a YouTube channel with short videos on Positive Discipline parenting techniques as well as building content for a Q&A style parenting video format.

010: How a parenting transition led to a calling with Cher Anderton

Cher Anderton was an east coast girl that has become a PNW convert! Cher works as an elementary school counselor in the Shoreline, WA, as well as licensed therapist in her private practice. She works with women adolescent age and older, and primarily focuses on trauma and parent coaching. Cher is a certified Positive Discipline Parent Educator. Her biggest passion and calling is helping parents and individuals move through life in healthier, more connected ways.

Cher has four kids, ages 11-17, including a son she and her husband adopted from foster care when he was almost 8. In this episode, Cher shares about her son’s adoption and how the discomforts of a parenting and faith transition led to discovering a calling. Join us as we discuss:

 

  • The circuitous process of adopting their fourth kid
  • The huge discomfort of adding another child while at the same time transitioning away from her families primary religious community
  • The journey to discard a fear-based model of parenting by asking better questions
  • How trusting, believing and enjoying the company of your children and who they are becoming brings about good choices for their life
  • The things that support their parenting transition and growth: a supportive parenting partner (“In it to win it!” – their motto as parenting partners); created a social safety net of friendships; learning by watching phenomenal mothers; creating their own community through volunteering; and doing activities with their kids to strengthen attachment
  • Discovering and following a calling through social work
  • Choosing to say “yes” to many opportunities to build a powerful network, and offering help to meet the needs of the community
  • Growing in resilience: becoming more comfortable with discomfort and ambiguity
  • Mistakes make us more human and we learn so much
  • Learning to nurture yourself with a self-compassionate voice
  • Parents: do your own work to make sure your cup is overflowing
  • The invitation to evolve and grow during transition

Recommended Resources:

 

Cher Anderton’s Contact Info:

  • Instagram: @cher_andertonllc
  • Facebook: @cheranderton
  • Website: cheranderton.com

 

Head over to her website for more info about her therapy practice and the parent education classes she’s currently offering. Cher is also developing a YouTube channel with short videos on Positive Discipline parenting techniques as well as building content for a Q&A style parenting video format.

009: Recreating a life with shaky, courageous hands with Emily Ann Peterson

In 2013, Emily Ann Peterson was diagnosed with a degenerative neurological hand tremor, which forever altered her two-decade livelihood as a cellist/cello teacher. In the weeks and months that followed, she was troubled by two big question, “Who am I if not a cellist?” and “How do I make a living!?” Refusing to lose her life’s love of expression, she knew she’d have to be brave. She set out to research and learn from others on what it means to be brave. This would eventually lead her to write a book called Bare Naked Bravery: How to Be Creatively Courageous. The book seeks to help people from all walks of life understand what bravery really is – allowing them to step into it by creatively using vulnerability, imagination and improvisation. Her goal with her writing, podcast (it’s called Bare Naked Bravery) and School of Bravery is to inspire a global resonance and magnanimous community through the marriage of art and whole-person development.

In this episode, Emily Ann shares of the impact this diagnosis had on her sense of self and her career, and the lessons of bravery she learned along the way. Join us as we discuss:

 

  • Hearing about her hand degenerative neurological hand tremor through the sound of her cello for the first time
  • Needing to hear someone tell the truth that “This is bad.” and “It is going to be life-altering.”
  • How the diagnosis disrupted her identity, career and finances
  • Beginning the long process of making sense of the change, starting with a 6-week artist residency
  • The work to untangle your identity from what you do: from cellist to songwriter to artist to having to be really brave as a human
  • Curiosity about the question, “What is bravery?” led to a research about it
  • Reading years of journals and burning them: a physical act of letting go and acknowledging their gift of expression
  • The Impermanent Writing Practice: 30-minutes of daily journaling to “get it out” (followed immediately by “Ctrl-A delete”)
  • “Letting go” and a moment of intense grief
  • The importance of connection and community as a bravery building tool
  • Learning to holding your future with an open hand
  • Three core elements of courage: it’s contagious, it’s worth it, and someone needs you to be it

Recommended Resources:

Emily Ann’s Contact Info:

You can learn more about all of Emily Ann’s upcoming events and her Bravery School at emilyannpeterson.com.

 

You can also find her on Twitter, Instagram and Facebook.

008: From “should-ing” on your future to letting desire lead the way with Rachel Vander Pol

Rachel Vander Pol is not only an award-winning resume writer but also a recovering world wanderer. Rachel lives in San Diego, CA where she runs her own company called RVP Career Services. She helps job seekers around the world craft interview-winning career documents, from resumes to cover letters to LinkedIn profiles. She loves to collaborate with clients to dig deep into their past experiences to help them step into their future careers.

 

Finding her dream job wasn’t easy. There were a lot of “shoulds” – the expectations and obligations set by others – making that difficult. Several years back, Rachel was stuck in a career cul-de-sac of listless job wandering. Through a lot of deep personal discovery and some critical heart shifts, she would leave the comforts of what was safe and known to follow a dream of living and working in Ireland. Eventually, this pursuit of desire led her to start a business that helps others land their dream job.

 

In this episode, Rachel shares of her career transition to leave a life imprisoned by the expectations of others and the avoidance of her personal desires to discovering a more life-giving ‘next’ connected to her gifts and rooted in the pursuit of a dream. Join us as we discuss:

 

  • The pattern of listlessly wandering in a career; quickly going from the honeymoon phase of a new job to “this is not it”
  • Career discontent as something to get rid of versus something to listen to
  • Utilizing community as a way to see patterns
  • Writing exercise: stories from the future to identify the clues of agency and and a dream
  • Learning to listen to desire and pushing into it
  • Life guided by “shoulds”: plans according to the expectations and obligations of others
  • Her 30th birthday: a culminating moment of blah that invited the courage to take a huge leap of faith
  • Sometimes running away from a dream can look like staying put
  • Moving to Ireland as learning to live her life with desire
  • The allure to go back to what feels safe
  • From following the path others took to becoming fiercely comfortable to making my own path
  • Learning to be fiercely independent, growing my business and in relationship at the same time
  • Exploring the work of being an entrepreneur and its connection to personal growth
  • Learn to trust yourself as you navigate transition
  • The importance of self-care to get through it

 

Recommended Resources:

Whether you know where you want to head in your career or still wondering what you ‘want to be when you grow up,’ a well-crafted resume will help you get to the next step. Rachel offers everything from resume critiques to full career document packages. Visit rvpcareerservices.com to see all she has to offer or to book a free 30-minute consultation.

007: The art of living well after traumatic loss with Aaron McHugh

Aaron McHugh is a writer, podcaster, adventurer, and author of the best-selling book, Fire Your Boss: A Manifesto to Rethink How You Think About Work. He is mastering the art of living a sustainable work-life balance that constantly interweaves rhythms of play and adventure. That includes road trips in their 1974 VW Bus, aka The Joy Bus, catapulting them into many father-daughter adventures together.

Aaron works as an Affiliate Advisor for Aberkyn, a division of McKinsey & Co as a facilitator of transformation. He also works with Moving Performance, facilitating leadership change through the power of music.

He and his wife Leith live in Colorado Springs, CO. They are celebrating twenty-five years of marriage in December. Their marriage has survived the death of their twelve-year-old daughter Hadley in 2011. Their twenty-two-year-old son Holden lives in Costa Mesa and is thriving in recovery three years clean and sober. Their youngest daughter lives at home still.

In 2015 they rebooted their lives, sold their house and all of their belongings to reboot their life and start their life over again. It hasn’t been easy, but they would do it again. They love traveling, drinking box wine and spending time with their creative, hilarious and courageous kids.

In this episode, Aaron shares about the transition of creating a new life worth living after surviving the death of their daughter, Hadley. Join us as we discuss:

 

  • What it means to thriving after trauma versus surviving and mending
  • Being an integrated human vs. managing life in categories
  • Mastering the art of living a life that happens concurrently
  • The challenge of raising a child with a severe medical condition and grieving her death at 12 years old
  • The shared unity all humans encounter in the disappointments of life as plans go awry
  • Seeing how trauma that gets “stored” in the physical space of a home
  • Considering a new question on a blank page post-catastrophe: What would my life look like if I were thriving?
  • “What DON’T we want life to look like?” vs. “What DO we want life to look like?”
  • Our two primary anchors to orient choices around: God is good and life is meant to be well lived
  • Congruence Exercise: How do your actions and behaviors line up with what you say are your deepest values?
  • Letting go of “my demands for life” and the guiding narratives that are inherit or given to us by culture
  • Making a heart-centric shift in perspective: moving away from the fear of prevention (keeping troubles away) and a life of scarcity, and choosing a new perspective of, “There is always enough.”
  • 7 steps for restoring balance
  • Choose a new start line for the day: create 5 minutes a day of quiet “white space” in your life
  • What’s a joy bucket?
  • To the cynic: “I’m with you. I was, too.”
  • Tilting your heart toward the big, dangerous idea of believing in a “big giant story” and looking for evidence of it
  • The greater loss after a tragedy: missing the rest of your life
  • Taking a “timeout” on life, selling everything and leaving our work
  • Facing the tradeoffs that come with hard decisions as temporary inconveniences
  • Consider this as you take risks: what if you believe in yourself? What if it goes great?

 

Social Media:

Twitter: @aarondmchugh

Facebook: @worklifeplay

Instagram: @aarondmchugh

Recommended Resources:

Free E-Course: 7 Steps for Restoring Balance by Aaron McHugh

Free E-Book: 99 Ways to Navigate Your Best Life by Aaron McHugh

Podcasts:

 

You can subscribe to Aaron McHugh’s podcast here: Work Life Play or in itunes

Book:

The One Page Financial Plan by Carl Richards

006: Jenn Swanson on finding a life-giving ‘next’ after leaving a toxic workplace

Jenn Swanson’s motto is to engage, encourage and empower others to step into their success. Through her podcast, facilitation and speaking, online courses and an Amazon-best-selling book, Jenn endeavors to inspire people to be able to get the job they want, love the work that they do, and to advance their careers. Jenn has a background in healthcare (working and teaching at the college level), a Master’s Degree in Public and Pastoral Leadership, is a certified conflict coach and Master NLP Practitioner, is an ordained clergy member in the United Church of Canada, and serves as the minister of a small yet vibrant congregation in a half-time capacity when not podcasting or helping people in career transition. When not working, Jenn and her husband (sometimes in the company of their 4 kids) love to cook and garden and enjoy a good glass of red wine! In this episode, Jenn joins me to explore a significant career transition she made a number of years back when she left a toxic work environment to create something more life-giving. Join us as we discuss:

 

  • Her love of teaching and helping others find their success
  • The difficulty of a protracted season of employment in a toxic work environment
  • The “thought loop” of change that contributes to exhaustion, stress and feelings of being stuck
  • The importance of limiting conversations about the “spin and swirl” of change and the gift of engaging things that are life-giving
  • Creating time to listen to your life during challenging seasons
  • The importance of “looking after me” to make it through transition
  • Starting your day with a mindful practice to keep perspective before the demands begins
  • Sitting down with yourself to “take stock” to do two things: figure out what you really love and what you can translate that into
  • Identifying the “treasure” of your calling regardless of the level of change (or role, job title, career, etc.)
  • Why do we have a team of people to plan a wedding that lasts one day, but when it comes to planning a life we resist getting help?
  • You as your best investment during transition
  • The Discipline of Self-care: From “Yeah, I know.” to “I’m doing it.”
  • Whatever the change, it’s not the whole of you.

Social Media:

 

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/CareersbyJenn/

Twitter:@careersbyjenn

Instagram: @careersbyjenn

 

Recommended Resources:

Podcasts:

Careers by Jenn: Get the Job. Love your work. Advance your career. With Jenn Swanson