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031:The importance of taking a pause in your career with Karen Walker

Decades ago, Karen helped create the (then) fastest growing company in American history: Compaq Computer. After working at Compaq for fourteen years, she left to begin Oneteam.

She now serves as an executive advisor and consultant to CEOs and senior organization leaders to grow their companies — with outcomes including IPOs, acquisitions, market share increases, and dramatic leadership development. Karen’s work has enabled sustained growth in a multitude of companies, from startups to Fortune 500 firms, including Aetna and BMC Software. Karen rose quickly in her leadership at Compaq. After 14 years, she decided to pause from the intense pace of her life and career. It was during this time that she asked some key questions tied to her identity, purpose and joy. Join us this week as we discuss:

  • None of this was planned
  • I have nothing to lose here
  • Wow! This is amazing!
  • I can’t not solve a problem
  • Finding internal change
  • What do you want to do for the rest of your life?
  • Taking in a new perspective
  • Greater than the small self
  • Foundation of credibility
  • Before you leave, find ways to explore
  • Be intentional before you leap
  • Get really clear about your “why”

Recommended Resources

No Dumbing Down

Contacting Karen

Instagram:@karenwalkerus

Twitter:@karenwalkerus

Website:karenwalker.us

030: When a life transition begins with betrayal with Wayne Jacobsen

As an author and speaker Wayne Jacobsen travels the world helping people find freedom from performance-based religion and to embrace a relationship with God more deeply rooted in his affection for them. His most popular titles include He Loves Me: Learning to Live in the Father’s Affection, So You Don’t Want to Go to Church Anymore, Finding Church, In Season, and A Man Like No Other. Wayne was also a co-writer and publisher of The Shack, which sold over twenty million copies worldwide. Two of his books are now being adapted into movies for theatrical release. A former pastor, Wayne now hosts Lifestream.org, which provides resources for spiritual growth and a podcast at TheGodJourney.com to encourage people thinking outside the box of organized religion, both have inspired countless people to a more vibrant faith. He has been married to Sara for 43 years and lives in Southern California where they enjoy their adult children and grandchildren. Early in his career, Wayne experienced a profound betrayal from a close friend that resulted in him losing his job. It brought about a two year season of uncertainty, hurt, loss and a whole lot of healing, learning and discovery. Join us this week as Wayne takes us on his journey through betrayal, and finding his way into a more vibrant career and faith journey.

  • Its 3:00 AM, be ready to flea
  • No time to process before being thrown into another
  • What IS the right thing to say?
  • I will laugh, I will smile again
  • Embrace the hurt, validate it
  • There was no good answer- no way to fix this
  • For the first time in my life, I was alone with my faith
  • One foot in front of the other
  • Something’s different
  • Being a performer is exhausting: what’s enough mean?
  • Earning it doesn’t get us there
  • Hurt people hurt people
  • The truth will set you free
  • Let it marinate, sit on it for a minute
  • Get in touch with something bigger
  • Find your heart, not fix your pain- persevere!

Recommended Resources

Beyond Sundays

The Shack

He Loves me

Contact Wayne

Twitter: @LifestreamWayne

Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/wayneljacobsen/

Website:TheGodJourney.com

029: Getting out of debt with Andrea Ide

Money influences most major life stages and seasons of transition. This was true for Andrea Ide and her growing family. In January 2010, Andrea and her husband, Andy, found themselves at the end of their ropes when it came to personal finances. They were $56,000 in debt with no idea how to get out from under it short of winning the lottery. They desperately wanted to buy a house, but didn’t qualify for a loan because their debt to income ratio was too high. They are smart people (much of their debt was from the grad degrees that they each have), but didn’t know what to do when it came to money. After 30 months of scraping and intentional spending, Andrea and Andy were able to pay off their debt as well as save enough money for a down payment for their first home. Join us this week as Andrea walks us through her process of getting out of debt and these other great topics:

  • Disruption of finances is a large transition
  • Only business majors need personal finance
  • It’s a matter of wanting it
  • Keeping perspective: A date vs. someday
  • We ate so much rice and beans
  • Look at what we’ve done
  • It takes sacrifice
  • Telling your money where its going to go
  • Write it down
  • Its okay to talk about money

Contact Andrea

Website: idealpersonalfinancecoaching.com

Recommended Resources

Ideal Personal Finance Coaching

Total Money Makeover

 

028: How career transitions affect your identity and sense of purpose with Al Erisman

Al Erisman is a writer, speaker, and board member for multiple organizations. He is also the executive editor of Ethix magazine (www.ethix.org). In 2017, he completed 17 years as Executive in Residence in the School of Business, Government, and Economics at Seattle Pacific University, where he taught both graduate and undergraduate courses in business, ethics, and technology. He remains on emeritus status at SPU. From 1969-2001 Al was at The Boeing Company, beginning as an applied mathematics researcher. During his last 11 years at Boeing he was the director of R&D for technology and mathematics, managing a staff of 250 computer scientists, mathematicians, and engineers. During this episode, Al takes us on his journey through various career and life transitions. Join us as we discuss:

  • I wonder what it’ll be like in 20 years
  • Technology and the world around us
  • Pretty vulnerable and pretty ready
  • Good guys and bad guys and the contribution to both
  • Free to say what I needed to say
  • Tough seasons before great opportunity
  • When you’re in the midst of it
  • The questions
  • Wanting to be constantly learning
  • Preparation for departure
  • It’s for more than just a paycheck
  • Which is more important: this or this?
  • The only problem with working in 1000 different dimensions
  • The lesson of yes
  • You are in the real world
  • Purpose and Meaning: Here’s the link

Recommended Resources

Kiros

Ethix

Theology of Work  

027: From victim to hero while married to an alcoholic with Ruth Seidel

Ruth Seidel is a pastor at Bethany Community Church North in Shoreline, WA. She is fiercely kindhearted and offers a deep well of wisdom to those she walks through life with. One of her passions is serving others through Al-Anon,an organization that comes alongside individuals living with the disruption caused by a loved one who is struggling with alcoholism and addiction. During this episode, Ruth walks us through her own story as a wife and mother and living with an alcoholic husband. Her transition is about the journey from being the victim to becoming the hero of her story. Join us as we discuss:

  • U-Turn career change
  • Transition from victim to hero
  • Figuring and fixing addiction
  • Timer Set; ready to grieve
  • The other life of church basements
  • We’re not like you
  • This has nothing to do with me
  • I’ve said this 1000 times
  • Honestly, we’re selfish people, but grateful
  • We’re not going to be like them
  • Don’t be terminally unique
  • This life also matters
  • There is hope and I’m not alone

Recommended Resources

Al Anon

Contact Ruth

Company: Bethany Community Church North

Email: ruths@churchbcc.org

 

 

026: Finding home again after the death of a spouse with Linda Wagner

Linda Wagner has a heart for learning and for the creative arts. She completed a PhD in education with a focus on complex learning, “later in life”. She’s worked in higher education, most recently as the Director of the Center for Learning at Seattle Pacific University, and since leaving that position continues to work with student learning on a consulting basis. Linda has also been involved in the arts community, primarily supporting writers. Among other things, she was the co-director of the Christian Writers Conference at Seattle Pacific University and has worked as an author’s agent, a freelance content development editor, and as a partner in a small publishing firm. As Linda and her husband were entered the retirement years and all they had dreamed it to be, Larry, unexpectedly died shortly after moving from Seattle to Portland. As you can imagine, this was an unimaginable loss for Linda. Join us in this episode as Linda walks us through the painful experience of losing her husband, and the slow journey to rebuild a life and a sense of home.

  • Getting my house in order, literally
  • Welcome Home!
  • Moving forward, unexpectedly
  • Residue of hope
  • We becoming Me
  • Loss of spouse, loss of space
  • The honest heart that God wants for you
  • Saying goodbye to the garage-and the coffee pot
  • Don’t not mention it

025: Keeping curious in the second half of life with Gary Barkelow

Gary has been studying and speaking on the subject of calling for 25 years. He is the author of the book, “It’s Your Call”. Founder of The Noble Heart ministry, Gary’s mission is to help people discover the life they were designed to live that brings life to others. He is also adjunct faculty at Colorado Christian University. Before starting The Noble Heart ministry, Gary was on the leadership team and a speaker with Ransomed Heart ministries for seven years. In this episode, Gary offers thoughts about the lessons he is learning about his calling during the second half of life. Join us as we discuss:

  • Connecting the dots
  • Calling and competency is not the same thing
  • Something’s coming, the stream is drying up
  • Desire to be safe, and comfortable
  • This is a great idea, but not here
  • Bias against those who are getting older: Ageism
  • Part of the letting go
  • Father to the fatherless
  • Are you about to jump off a cliff?

Recommended Resources and Contact Information

The Noble Heart

 

024: Finding true north when my career was grounded for 8 years with Jeff Andrechyn

Jeff Andrechyn is a Captain for American Airlines. His motto: Travel lightly, but with great purpose. He has a passion to inspire through storytelling and listening to the hearts of others wherever he finds himself – the cockpit, conferences, retreats and especially around the dinner table.

When Jeff was 46 years old, he was working as a captain for US Airways. He had two great kids and a wife he loved. Life was good. One day, Jeff was unable to see out of one eye. The doctors would diagnosis him with Ocular Migraines, which resulted in him losing his job. He would spend the next 8 years grounded, unsure of what to do next or where to turn. Join us this week as Jeff takes us on his journey of losing his job, and finding his “truth north” as a student, teacher, and father:

 

 

  • Travel lightly but with great purpose
  • How to navigate when the light goes dark
  • Transitions that sends a pilot spiraling
  • Disruptions happen, let them be hard and quick
  • Qualifying for a transition
  • Putting myself into community in a vulnerable way
  • When you’re in a hard transition, you often feel like you’re the only one…but you’re not
  • Who are you…Really?
  • Helping other get unstuck while still being stuck
  • Sometimes you have to die before you die
  • You’re going to have to learn how to navigate
  • Evaluate yourself
  • Through adversity to the stars

Contact Jeff

Facebook: @jeff.andrechyn

023: Getting unstuck in a career by finding your voice with Amy Li

After changing roles in the organization, Amy quickly realized her full potential was not being explored. She was bored and felt stuck in a dead end role, and she had no clue where to begin to change that. In this episode, Amy shares her journey through a career transition and the work she did to discover a calling and a clear purpose for her life. Amy holds a bachelors of business administration and american ethics. She has nearly completed a Masters in Psychology, and also enrolled in the school of psychology PhD program at the University of Washington. As she is navigating her new future Amy hopes to journey alongside children as they figure out who they are and who they wish to become. Join us this week as we discuss:

 

 

 

  • Sitting in the soul sucking corner
  • Continuing the pattern of finding jobs
  • Hiding without recognizing worth
  • Fruits of labor and leadership
  • Being seen is scary, especially when you are taught to be hidden
  • Out with the old, in with the new
  • Exposing yourself is scary, but it feels so good to be seen
  • Stories of the future
  • The fear of stepping forward alone
  • The process of spiritual purpose and calling

022: Death’s invitation to become who we’re meant to be with Dan Allender

The death of a loved one forces us to count what really matters to us. It also invites us to become who we were meant to be. In this episode, Dan Allender shares about engaging boldly with his father months before his death opening the door to the desires of his own heart as a son. Dan serves as the founding President and Professor of Counseling at The Seattle School of Theology & Psychology in Seattle, Washington. Dan is also a founding member of The Allender Center, a place that specializes in training pastors, therapists, group leaders, lay counselors, and community and business leaders to understand their own stories in order to more deeply enter the lives of those they are called to love and serve. Dan travels and speaks extensively to present his unique perspective on sexual abuse recovery, love and forgiveness, leadership, Sabbath, and other related topics.

 

Join us this week as we discuss:

  • Transitions that call us to become who we are meant to be
  • Exhausting labor doesn’t mean you make money
  • Transition from favorable to hostile is only minor league
  • You’re going to die, and I don’t know who you are
  • Making use of prior trauma and not giving up
  • In my weaknesses, that is where I bare my strengths
  • The courage of truth
  • If it’s what your heart desires, then there is always something more you can bring
  • Wounds are the realm of over-compensation; strengths arise out of brokenness
  • Leaning into the disruption
  • To create good means you bear both death and resurrection
  • Embracing desire is the realm of foolishness
  • “Extremity introduces you to who you are.”
  • Who and what do you want to become
  • You can be afraid, but dread no moment

Recommended Resources:

To learn more about Dan Allender and his work in the world, visit theallendercenter.org.

Here is a list of some of Dan’s most well known books:

The Wounded Heart

The Healing Path

How Children Raise Parents

The Intimate Mystery

Intimate Allies

To Be Told

Breaking the Idols of your Heart

Leading with a Limp

Sabbath

God Loves Sex

Dan

The Allender Center Podcast

The Allender Center

The Seattle School