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016: Curiosity with our sexual brokenness is where we discover our life with Jay Stringer

Jay Stringer has spent the last decade working on the frontlines of the demand for pornography and sexual exploitation. Jay’s first book, Unwanted: How Sexual Brokenness Reveals Our Way to Healing will be released in September. His book includes research on over 3,800 men and women struggling with unwanted sexual behavior, be that the use of pornography, an affair, or buying sex. Jay holds an MDiv and Master in Counseling Psychology from the Seattle School of Theology and Psychology.

In this episode, Jay shares from his research an important connection between an individual stuck in unwanted sexual behavior and having a clear lack of purpose in their life. Join us this week as we discuss:

 

  • The language of addiction and placing blame
  • Growing up as the Pastor’s kid pre-cell phone days
  • Transitioning between the good and the best
  • Knowing the what and learning the why of healing sexual brokenness
  • Good as the enemy of best: knowing your ‘yes’
  • Pornography is a squatter and your body is a vacant house
  • Lacking purpose allures you to watching other people’s lives
  • What doesn’t kill you eventually will
  • Beauty as the antidote
  • The beauty behind the abstract experiences
  • Swim in the direction of the shark: facing unwanted sexual behavior as the path to our redemption and healing
  • Calling behavior into deeper meaning
  • Bringing to light the brokenness

Upcoming Book:

Pre-order Jay’s book here:

Unwanted: How Sexual Brokenness Reveals Our Way to Healing

Jay Stringer’s Contact Info:

Website:jay-stringer.com

Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/jayelmer

Twitter:@_jaystringer

LinkedIn:https://www.linkedin.com/in/jay-stringer-658a56149/

 

 

 

 

015: Finding purpose after leaving a cult and the military with Daniella Young

Daniella Young is a motivational speaker, writer, combat veteran, Army wife, Mom, and the founder and CEO of Task Force Art, an intentional team building and purposeful leadership consulting firm. Her “Bullet-Proofed” seminar inspires leaders to proactively engage in building high-passion/high performance teams, strong organizational culture, and a place where diversity and personal strengths are actively cultivated. Daniella’s wisdom on navigating major life transitions comes from her own experience of several challenging transitions including escaping from a cult, leaving the military, and becoming a parent. Join us this week as we discuss:

 

  • Escaping a cult at the age of 15 and feeling “so, so different” from others
  • What makes you different? Where do I start?
  • Underneath the obsession of getting good grades and excelling to fit in is the longing for connection
  • Tough love: “Daniella, you’re not as different as you think you are.”
  • The similarities between the cult and the military
  • This is what it means to be American
  • Winning the lottery of American privilege
  • Transitioning between post-military and family life
  • The six figure job wasn’t the right calling and purpose
  • Carrying the weight for an entry level position
  • The process and the people: a transition for veterans
  • Avoiding conflict: How companies are doing it wrong
  • Figure out your meaning, your end goal and how to give back
  • Using conflict and creating your victory with vision work
  • Conflict engaged has the power to create community

Recommended Resources:

Bunker Labs

Task Force Art

Bullet Proof Yourself Blog

Daniella Young’s Contact Info:

Company: Task Force Art

Website:taskforceart.com

Email:daniella@taskforceart.com

Twitter:@daniellamyoung

 

014: Navigating the Transition to Adulthood with Cory Smith

Cory is a Virginia native and attended Virginia Commonwealth where he received his undergraduate degree in biology and his Masters in Teaching. During his time at VCU, Cory played on the soccer team and was a full-time volunteer for Young Life. After finishing college, Cory entered the Young Life intern program for two years and continued on staff for two additional years in Virginia. Cory and his wife Christine were married in 2001 and have lived in Colorado since 2002. They have two children : a beautiful children, daughter daughter, Sage and, born in 2009 and a son, Cedar., who was born 2013. Christine and Cory love being parents and will soon be celebrating 15 years of marriage. Cory enjoys fly fishing, wearing flip flops and shorts, and hanging with friends in his garage. Cory is one of the founding directors of Training Ground, an organization that provides evaluated real life experiences, mentoring, and intentional Biblical teaching in the context of work, wilderness, and worship.

In part one The Path of a calling is not a straight line Cory shares about how a challenging 2-year season of remodeling a barn with a friend led to discovering a calling and career. In this episode, part two, Cory talks about the unique challenges of transitioning into adulthood, and how risk, failure and community are essential elements to the transition. Join us as we discuss:

  • Founding and Design of Training Ground
  • Refining Energy within Perspective Spaces
  • The Value of Conflict and Tension
  • The Permission to Fail and Experiment
  • Who is Training Ground
  • Fifty Bucks and a Phone Number
  • Risk is Necessary to Shape a Life Worth Living
  • Death Bringing Life
  • The Different Challenges Through Different Generations
  • Navigating the Transition To Adulthood
  • The lesson of “Do What’s in Front of You”
  • What Doesn’t Look Safe May Be Safe
  • The Paradox of the Gospel in Finding Your Calling

Upcoming Workshops and Events:

Gap Year in Sarasota

Cory Smith’s Contact Info:

Website:

Training Ground

Email:cory@trainingground.com

Instagram:@traininggroundcolorado

Twitter:@Training_Ground

013: The path of a calling is not a straight line with Cory Smith

Cory is a Virginia native and attended Virginia Commonwealth where he received his undergraduate degree in biology and his Masters in Teaching. During his time at VCU, Cory played on the soccer team and was a full-time volunteer for Young Life. After finishing college, Cory entered the Young Life intern program for two years and continued on staff for two additional years in Virginia. Cory and his wife Christine were married in 2001 and have lived in Colorado since 2002. They have two beautiful children, daughter Sage and son, Cedar. Cory is one of the founding directors of Training Ground, an organization that provides evaluated real life experiences, mentoring, and intentional Biblical teaching in the context of work, wilderness, and worship.

In this episode, Cory shares about his early career moves and how a challenging 2-year season of remodeling a barn with a friend led to discovering a calling and career. Join us as we discuss:

 

  • The circuitous path of Cory’s calling
  • Work that “grinds” and deeply shapes character
  • Recognizing passion and finding what you’re made of while doing less than desirable work
  • Know the difference: escaping to get relief vs. choosing something desired
  • Faith and God’s gift to us to choose our way
  • Work that “pays the bills”
  • “Everything is spiritual” in the gritty work we do
  • “Staying in the pocket” – the value of tensions that shape our character over time

Upcoming Workshops:

Cory and the Training Ground team will be doing a Gap Year in Sarasota this coming fall. 

Cory Smith’s Contact Info:

  • Website:Training Ground
  • Email:cory@trainingground.com
  • Instagram:@traininggroundcolorado
  • Twitter:@Training_Ground

Head over to Cory’s website and check out Training Ground, and be sure to be on the look out for events and upcoming workshops!

 

012: Pushing Boundaries while Balancing Expectations and Reality with Craig Detweiler

Craig Detweiler’s background is in filmmaking and screenwriting, and he was recently hired on as the president of a seminary called The Seattle School of Theology and Psychology. He and his family uprooted to the Seattle area from Los Angeles, taking on a new challenge both in career and life. Craig works with graduate students who are looking to deepen and broaden their calling and leadership skills, all while trying to transition himself into a new place. He is the author of several books including, Selfies: Searching for the Image of God in a Digital Age and iGods: How Technology Shapes Our Spiritual and Social Lives .

 

In this episode, Craig shares his experiences of transition that from a young age helped shape his desire to push boundaries. Join us as we discuss:

  • Transition:it’s all material intended for our growth – even if its painful it’s all good
  • Choosing a new career path in an act of hope
  • Seattle in transition- who we are and whose we are
  • The Third Act: Life Drama
  • How the overflow of choices creates a problem
  • All the way back to Florida and the inability to vote
  • Billy Graham and a spiritual crisis, alone in a hotel room
  • Sending self confidence back to 12 year old Craig
  • Wayfinding and welcoming new adventure
  • Screenplay of hope and expectation
  • The already and the not yet
  • Grit and determination are the muscle of resilience
  • The Psalms of Life: Finding hope and love in a new community
  • Transitioning without the invisibility cloak and finding fellowship
  • The risk is worth it