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022: Death’s invitation to become who we’re meant to be with Dan Allender

The death of a loved one forces us to count what really matters to us. It also invites us to become who we were meant to be. In this episode, Dan Allender shares about engaging boldly with his father months before his death opening the door to the desires of his own heart as a son. Dan serves as the founding President and Professor of Counseling at The Seattle School of Theology & Psychology in Seattle, Washington. Dan is also a founding member of The Allender Center, a place that specializes in training pastors, therapists, group leaders, lay counselors, and community and business leaders to understand their own stories in order to more deeply enter the lives of those they are called to love and serve. Dan travels and speaks extensively to present his unique perspective on sexual abuse recovery, love and forgiveness, leadership, Sabbath, and other related topics.

 

Join us this week as we discuss:

  • Transitions that call us to become who we are meant to be
  • Exhausting labor doesn’t mean you make money
  • Transition from favorable to hostile is only minor league
  • You’re going to die, and I don’t know who you are
  • Making use of prior trauma and not giving up
  • In my weaknesses, that is where I bare my strengths
  • The courage of truth
  • If it’s what your heart desires, then there is always something more you can bring
  • Wounds are the realm of over-compensation; strengths arise out of brokenness
  • Leaning into the disruption
  • To create good means you bear both death and resurrection
  • Embracing desire is the realm of foolishness
  • “Extremity introduces you to who you are.”
  • Who and what do you want to become
  • You can be afraid, but dread no moment

Recommended Resources:

To learn more about Dan Allender and his work in the world, visit theallendercenter.org.

Here is a list of some of Dan’s most well known books:

The Wounded Heart

The Healing Path

How Children Raise Parents

The Intimate Mystery

Intimate Allies

To Be Told

Breaking the Idols of your Heart

Leading with a Limp

Sabbath

God Loves Sex

Dan

The Allender Center Podcast

The Allender Center

The Seattle School

 

021: Waiting with the ache of a calling for seven years sucks with Brad Thayer

What am I doing here? Where did I mess up? Is God disappointed with me? Am I really supposed to be working as a pastor? How do I make ends meet? Where’s my niche? Why was I fired? Am I sure this is my calling? Why do I keep getting “no” after “no”? Brad Thayer would be asking all of these questions and many more as he navigated many job changes, career stumbles, 37 job interviews, and great loss spread out over seven years. In this episode, Brad describes his long and painful journey toward finding work that matches his calling and purpose in life. Brad is the lead pastor at the Ballard campus of Bethany Community Church.

 

 

 

Join us this week as we discuss:

  • More builds character
  • A literal come to Jesus moment
  • What am I going to do now?
  • The rule of saying yes
  • Questioning the path of Ministry
  • Spiral of dark times
  • Knowing what you aren’t leads to knowing what you are
  • Each opportunity is hopeful
  • It’s coming to an end
  • Loss compounded by loss
  • You’re not ambiguous
  • The confirmation
  • The mystery package
  • This season feels like home

Contact Brad

Facebook:Facebook.com/BradThayer

Facebook.com/BCCballard/

Instagram:@bthayer – @bcc_ballard

Twitter: @bthayer – @bcc_balalrd

Website:Bethany Community Church

Episode 020: The fall that started it all with Jon DeWaal

Join us this week as Liminal Space executive Jon DeWaal discusses the life changing fall that threw not only himself, but his wife and two young children into a world of transition.

 

 

 

019: Following the “breadcrumbs” of a calling with Shonnie Scott

As Shonnie Scott’s role as a pastor came to a finishing point, she found herself taking a leap of faith towards new and courageous opportunities. In this episode, Shonnie shares her experience with this career transition, and how much it formed her faith and calling. Shonnie’s life-vocation is all about empowering others to flourish in their callings, which she has fulfilled through multiple “God-assignments” over the last three decades. She has served the local church professionally since 1986, most recently spending six and half years as a solo lead pastor, launching the first satellite campus of Bethany Community Church in West Seattle. Out of that experience, she continues to empower women by serving as a pastor, mentor, speaker, and spiritual director to women leaders, pastors and church planters. Because gender justice and racial justice are inseparable, she also serves as a leader of Racial Reconciliation and Justice ministry at Bethany Community Church.

 

Join us this week as we discuss:

  • The journey of many new transitional seasons
  • Before, during and after
  • Opening the conversation
  • Letting go of one community to grow another
  • A liminal space alive
  • Recognizing exhaustion and having time for self-care
  • Following breadcrumbs lead into a stone pathway
  • Letting yourself be uncomfortable to build courage
  • Building your toolkit with every experience
  • If the door doesn’t open, stop banging on it
  • Traveler, there is no road

Contact Shonnie

Email: shonniescott@comcast.net

Facebook: @Shonnie.scott

Instagram: @shonniescott

018: Finding yourself after being fired from your job with Hien DeYoung

Being fired from the job you love is devastating. It is one of the most challenging career transitions a person will go through. And it’s what happened to our guest, Hien DeYoung. Hien’s passion is developing, empowering and inspiring people so they can fulfill their business mission. This is expressed in her work as head of HR, executive coach, and researcher of executive women’s leadership journeys. Her most often used tools are empathy, educated insight, and deep curiosity. Hien is a SHRM credentialed HR executive, and certified executive coach from the Hudson Institute of Coaching. For 20 years she had the privilege of working with CEOs and Founders in head of HR roles building startup and early stage companies that were able to raise $300m in venture funding including an IPO. Her executive and corporate officer experience enables relevant context and insights for her work with CEOs and Executives.

Join us this week as we discuss:

  • Being fired after climbing her “professional Everest”
  • The emotional and mental anguish of feeling betrayed
  • Leading people is a different piece of management
  • Moving through a transition from the future perspective
  • Emotional, spiritual and financial struggle
  • Vacation forces a new environmental transition to recovery
  • Beginning to research and listen: finding her herself and her courage through other women’s stories
  • Baby boomer women are pioneers
  • Breaking into the boys club
  • Recognizing the missing piece after a career transition
  • Success doesn’t come from a degree, it’s about character and courage
  • The importance of taking a leap of faith
  • Transition is a forward momentum, with several steps

Hien DeYoung’s Contact Info

DeYoung Executive Coaching & Consultancy, LLC

Phone:206.349.3728

Email:hdeyoung@gmail.com

LinkedIn:Hien DeYoung

 

017: How to guide your career transition with Ron Carucci

Ron is co-founder and managing partner at Navalent, working with CEOs and executives pursuing transformational change for their organizations, leaders, and industries. He has a thirty year track record helping executives tackle challenges of strategy, organization and leadership. He is a regular contributor to the Harvard Business Review, where Navalent’s work on leadership was named one of 2016’s management ideas that mattered most. He is also a regular contributor to Forbes, and a two-time TEDx speaker. His work’s been featured in Fortune, CEO Magazine, Inc., Business Insider, MSNBC, Business Week, Smart Business, and thought leaders. He also serves as the Chairman of the Board of Trustees at Liminal Space, the organization responsible for this podcast. In this episode, Ron discusses the need to intentionally guide a career transition and the importance of stewarding a body of work from your life. Join us this week nas we discuss:

    • Transitioning through your 20’s, 30’s and 40’s
    • Keeping your life stable through panic
    • There are digital guns pointed at you
    • Making sure your metrics are worthy of working toward
    • How many faces have you mentored
    • Taking a step out of a career path and looking into your likes
    • The work to find work is a lot of work
    • Great careers and dreams are a risk
    • How do you….Liminal Space upcoming Workshops
    • Separating the job from the career
    • The worst isn’t quitting and leaving, its quitting and staying
    • Recognizing the career transition and mapping your way through it
    • Recognizing that you have options during a transitional period
    • Changing jobs can be lateral, and that’s okay
    • Keeping your wanderlust under control

Social Media

Company: Navalent

Website:Navalent

Email:ron@navalent.com

Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/ron.carucci

Twitter: @RonCarucci

LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/navalent

Upcoming Workshops

Launch your job search  

Delivering a WOW job interview

Rising Together

Recommended Resources

Rising to Power: The Journey of Exceptional Executives

Leading Transformation: An Owners Manual

 

016: Curiosity with our sexual brokenness is where we discover our life with Jay Stringer

Jay Stringer has spent the last decade working on the frontlines of the demand for pornography and sexual exploitation. Jay’s first book, Unwanted: How Sexual Brokenness Reveals Our Way to Healing will be released in September. His book includes research on over 3,800 men and women struggling with unwanted sexual behavior, be that the use of pornography, an affair, or buying sex. Jay holds an MDiv and Master in Counseling Psychology from the Seattle School of Theology and Psychology.

In this episode, Jay shares from his research an important connection between an individual stuck in unwanted sexual behavior and having a clear lack of purpose in their life. Join us this week as we discuss:

 

  • The language of addiction and placing blame
  • Growing up as the Pastor’s kid pre-cell phone days
  • Transitioning between the good and the best
  • Knowing the what and learning the why of healing sexual brokenness
  • Good as the enemy of best: knowing your ‘yes’
  • Pornography is a squatter and your body is a vacant house
  • Lacking purpose allures you to watching other people’s lives
  • What doesn’t kill you eventually will
  • Beauty as the antidote
  • The beauty behind the abstract experiences
  • Swim in the direction of the shark: facing unwanted sexual behavior as the path to our redemption and healing
  • Calling behavior into deeper meaning
  • Bringing to light the brokenness

Upcoming Book:

Pre-order Jay’s book here:

Unwanted: How Sexual Brokenness Reveals Our Way to Healing

Jay Stringer’s Contact Info:

Website:jay-stringer.com

Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/jayelmer

Twitter:@_jaystringer

LinkedIn:https://www.linkedin.com/in/jay-stringer-658a56149/

 

 

 

 

015: Finding purpose after leaving a cult and the military with Daniella Young

Daniella Young is a motivational speaker, writer, combat veteran, Army wife, Mom, and the founder and CEO of Task Force Art, an intentional team building and purposeful leadership consulting firm. Her “Bullet-Proofed” seminar inspires leaders to proactively engage in building high-passion/high performance teams, strong organizational culture, and a place where diversity and personal strengths are actively cultivated. Daniella’s wisdom on navigating major life transitions comes from her own experience of several challenging transitions including escaping from a cult, leaving the military, and becoming a parent. Join us this week as we discuss:

 

  • Escaping a cult at the age of 15 and feeling “so, so different” from others
  • What makes you different? Where do I start?
  • Underneath the obsession of getting good grades and excelling to fit in is the longing for connection
  • Tough love: “Daniella, you’re not as different as you think you are.”
  • The similarities between the cult and the military
  • This is what it means to be American
  • Winning the lottery of American privilege
  • Transitioning between post-military and family life
  • The six figure job wasn’t the right calling and purpose
  • Carrying the weight for an entry level position
  • The process and the people: a transition for veterans
  • Avoiding conflict: How companies are doing it wrong
  • Figure out your meaning, your end goal and how to give back
  • Using conflict and creating your victory with vision work
  • Conflict engaged has the power to create community

Recommended Resources:

Bunker Labs

Task Force Art

Bullet Proof Yourself Blog

Daniella Young’s Contact Info:

Company: Task Force Art

Website:taskforceart.com

Email:daniella@taskforceart.com

Twitter:@daniellamyoung

 

014: Navigating the Transition to Adulthood with Cory Smith

Cory is a Virginia native and attended Virginia Commonwealth where he received his undergraduate degree in biology and his Masters in Teaching. During his time at VCU, Cory played on the soccer team and was a full-time volunteer for Young Life. After finishing college, Cory entered the Young Life intern program for two years and continued on staff for two additional years in Virginia. Cory and his wife Christine were married in 2001 and have lived in Colorado since 2002. They have two children : a beautiful children, daughter daughter, Sage and, born in 2009 and a son, Cedar., who was born 2013. Christine and Cory love being parents and will soon be celebrating 15 years of marriage. Cory enjoys fly fishing, wearing flip flops and shorts, and hanging with friends in his garage. Cory is one of the founding directors of Training Ground, an organization that provides evaluated real life experiences, mentoring, and intentional Biblical teaching in the context of work, wilderness, and worship.

In part one The Path of a calling is not a straight line Cory shares about how a challenging 2-year season of remodeling a barn with a friend led to discovering a calling and career. In this episode, part two, Cory talks about the unique challenges of transitioning into adulthood, and how risk, failure and community are essential elements to the transition. Join us as we discuss:

  • Founding and Design of Training Ground
  • Refining Energy within Perspective Spaces
  • The Value of Conflict and Tension
  • The Permission to Fail and Experiment
  • Who is Training Ground
  • Fifty Bucks and a Phone Number
  • Risk is Necessary to Shape a Life Worth Living
  • Death Bringing Life
  • The Different Challenges Through Different Generations
  • Navigating the Transition To Adulthood
  • The lesson of “Do What’s in Front of You”
  • What Doesn’t Look Safe May Be Safe
  • The Paradox of the Gospel in Finding Your Calling

Upcoming Workshops and Events:

Gap Year in Sarasota

Cory Smith’s Contact Info:

Website:

Training Ground

Email:cory@trainingground.com

Instagram:@traininggroundcolorado

Twitter:@Training_Ground

013: The path of a calling is not a straight line with Cory Smith

Cory is a Virginia native and attended Virginia Commonwealth where he received his undergraduate degree in biology and his Masters in Teaching. During his time at VCU, Cory played on the soccer team and was a full-time volunteer for Young Life. After finishing college, Cory entered the Young Life intern program for two years and continued on staff for two additional years in Virginia. Cory and his wife Christine were married in 2001 and have lived in Colorado since 2002. They have two beautiful children, daughter Sage and son, Cedar. Cory is one of the founding directors of Training Ground, an organization that provides evaluated real life experiences, mentoring, and intentional Biblical teaching in the context of work, wilderness, and worship.

In this episode, Cory shares about his early career moves and how a challenging 2-year season of remodeling a barn with a friend led to discovering a calling and career. Join us as we discuss:

 

  • The circuitous path of Cory’s calling
  • Work that “grinds” and deeply shapes character
  • Recognizing passion and finding what you’re made of while doing less than desirable work
  • Know the difference: escaping to get relief vs. choosing something desired
  • Faith and God’s gift to us to choose our way
  • Work that “pays the bills”
  • “Everything is spiritual” in the gritty work we do
  • “Staying in the pocket” – the value of tensions that shape our character over time

Upcoming Workshops:

Cory and the Training Ground team will be doing a Gap Year in Sarasota this coming fall. 

Cory Smith’s Contact Info:

  • Website:Training Ground
  • Email:cory@trainingground.com
  • Instagram:@traininggroundcolorado
  • Twitter:@Training_Ground

Head over to Cory’s website and check out Training Ground, and be sure to be on the look out for events and upcoming workshops!